Horse Hair Weave
Alright so what’s the deal with the fake hair? I think it’s gone a bit too far and someone other than Chris Rock needs to say something. Black women seem to have this notion that they are judged by their hair. My question is by who? Other black women?you ladies are the ones destroying yourselves. Guys don’t care about your hair, half the time we don’t notice when you change your hair style (I do). I personally feel black women look better with their natural hair regardless of the length. I say natural meaning “your own hair” relaxed, permed or “nappy”. Half the time we can tell a horse hair weave from your real hair, and horse hair isn’t that attractive especially since your scalp feels like cobble stone roads when we touch your head. The worst part is women who have really nice hair but choose to mess it up with a weave, wow! Like how dumb is that? If your hair is really that shitty, shave it off. Take notes from people like: Amber Rose.
Amber Rose
Yeah! yeah! I know what you are thinking, why does this fool pick the hottest girl with short hair as an example. Well my answer is simply, cause I can! Get over it. She’s hot! And I can’t imagine her with hair.
Solange Knowles
OK, lots of ladies might disagree with this choice. But guess what? You are the same judgmental people who have created the complex you all struggle with. You would think women would be concerned with what men think, apparently that’s not the case. Solange looks great as far as I am concerned and I doubt any man in his right mind would have any problems with her looks.
Rihanna
I’m sure most women are capable of pulling off that hair style with regards to growing out your own natural hair. I doubt that Rihanna is rocking a weave and if she is well, that hair style doesn’t need one and can be accomplished by the folicly challenged. All in all, I worry about how artificial women have become and I am concerned that the day will come when everything on a woman will either be painted, glued or sewn on. Oh wait! That day is now!
— Damien
Damien's Black Book 
Your take on this is interesting. Would you really say that men don’t care about women’s hair? I was really surprised to read that – I thought hair was a big deal to guys!! I know many guys who aren’t attracted to ladies (white or black) with short hair, or black girls with “nappy” hair. Also, what’s your take on braids – do they fall under the same category as weaves?
Honestly, I think women care about other womens hair way more than men. I have never heard of or seen a guy I know turn a woman down, not talk to a woman he was interested in or found somewhat attractive physically because of her hair. Never has hair ever been an issue. I think the major killer is weight, thats what women should focus on. That being said, yes having long hair is nice, however weaves do not give the same results. In my own experience weaves have made me appreciate the natural long hair simply cause its not fake and not cause I think its better than any other length. Also remmember that Halle Berry has short hair and has been dubbed the most beautiful woman in the world countless times. That should show that no ones looking at her hair, if that poll was based on female votes I bet her hair would have been an issue. I think the catch is to do what works for you, you could look pretty with nappy hair, if you don’t then try something else. I actually think solange looks pretty with nappy hair, might not be the case for someone else. I just beleive that everyone can do something with their natural hair that makes them look good. If you are black you have a lot of options dreads, natural, straightened, afro whatever!
As for braids, I think braids get a pass. I have known braids to be used more for easy maintenance of your hair for a certain period of time rather than as a replacement to your natural hair. Most people who wear braids eventually take them out and wear their natural hair. But if one actually wears braids all the time, I guess it depends on what their reason is for wearing it. Cause they are not fooling anyone. Thanks for the comment!
You are welcome, and thanks for yours too. It helps me understand you better, and opens my eyes to certain issues. I just want to say thanks because I am a black lady with nice hair that I’m personally proud of, but for some reason, choose to cover it up with a weave. I’ve found that when I do wear weaves, I feel more insecure, less confident, and I just feel lesser than who I know myself to be, to be honest. I feel like I’m being fake with the world, and like I’m trying to look a certain way to be accepted and approved of (and I know I’m not fooling anyone). This is counterintuitive, cuz you’d think my long, straight weave would make me feel better about myself, but it’s actually doing the opposite…and I don’t know what it would take to get me to stop sabotaging myself! Maybe I need to start by seeing my true beauty inside and out for myself, instead of relying on society’s approval and ideals.
Go out on a limb, wear your natural hair, make it look good. Start with comforatble settings then move to more formal environments, get compliments on your own hair, eventually you wouldnt see the need to wear a weave, especially since you say you have nice hair. Come on!
That should serve me better than walking around feeling self-conscious, and wondering if my tracks are showing! Don’t get me wrong, I don’t have the most gorgeous hair or anything, but my hair is completely fine…about two inches below the end of my neck, healthy and decent looking. I guess I just felt it was somehow lacking certain desireable attributes!
Black women wear weave , because it is convenient . you try dealing with curly , coily , and kinky hair …. Its very time consuming . with weaves we are able to braid our up in a protective style and still have hair to be able to style outside of the cornrows . people are so quick to comment on what black women do with their hair without knowing a thing about black hair .
And people as a whole pay attention to hair on some occasions with the hair that black woman has from the straightest texture to the texture with the most coil , the first thing people will see on her beside her skin is her hair . a black woman’s hair isn’t like white or Hispanic and Asian hair they can’t just wake up in the morning , brush it out and go on with life . ( it wouldn’t look to good at all ) . no one wants a “nappy headed” girl – *nappy* — racial slur used to describe the texture of African american usually referring to unkept tangled hair . many times mistaken for coily and kinky type textures )
Weave is not made of horse hair , that is simply a myth , synthetic weave consist of the same materials used to make artificial breast for cancer patients . and the real human hair is actually hair donated from a religious group in Asia . each year they cut their hair off in symbolization to their god of their devotion .
Wow…I think your post brings up a lot of good points, but for some reason, I feel like you aren’t representing men in general. You seem to be speaking for yourself. And I don’t have a problem with that because you’ve made it clear to me that you’re not superficial, and that’s admirable, but I just wish you wouldn’t make it seem like most men would feel the same way you do.
By the way, I am a black female with long, natural hair. And by natural, I mean NATURAL. Whenever I straighten my hair with heat, to the point where it’s really straight, people respond to me differently. Black guys suddenly seem to notice me more, and one black male acquaintance in particular will ALWAYS compliment my hair when it’s dead straight and shiny. But when it’s in its natural state, or slightly blown out but not so straight, I get complemented by females only, and the guys suddenly don’t seem as interested – they say nothing, or look away faster. Tell me why this is so, since men don’t care about our hair.
My point is that maybe some black women have been MADE TO feel more attractive with long, straight hair, and some may not be able to achieve this look without a weave. In fact, some simply wear weaves to achieve a “glamorous” look, a look which many men have shown us they appreciate. And not every woman (black women in particular, who often struggle to grow their hair) can just shave off their hair like that; it’s risky, can be emotionally painful (most black women have been through a lot with their hair since childhood), could lead to them being mistaken for what they’re not, and may simply not be their personal taste!!!
@ Ssweet2urnip you raise good points my other reply touched on some of the things you talked about. A woman with long hair is not going to be liked by everyone, neither would one with short or natural hair. My point is be yourself and you will find the one that likes you for you. You have to be confortable in your own skin. Bald black men don’t wear wigs,cause we find women who like us for us..lots of women..lol!
A weave is not the answer to every womans prayers. Find you identity with your own hair and run with it.
You seem to be making this weave thing way deeper than it really is. Are there women who get weaves due to insecurity of some sort? Absolutely. Are there women who get weaves because they are trying to co conform to some standard of beauty? Most definitely. Your piece fails to account for women, like me who get weaves solely because it is by far easier to maintain than our natural hair. It fails to account for women who get them for a host of other reasons. I think it is ridiculous for you to assume that we do it to please men… Hilarious. I have had my natural hair for a long time and I’ve *never* worn it out. Why you ask? Because it is a PAIN to maintain. It’s essentially the “tougher than Nigerian hair” Lil’ Wayne mentioned in his hit song. Will I ever wear it out? I highly doubt it. Could it be because I’m insecure? Definitely not. To the contrary, I’d like to describe myself as the epitome of self confidence. The point I’m trying to make is; with me, and a lot of women I know, weaves are a far better alternative to our natural hair as they are very easy to maintain. You just shake and go.
Nice blog BTW…
In all honesty I don’t think I’m blowing it out of proportion. If you think I am, what would you say to Chris Rock who just made a movie solely about weave. Thanks for your comment, it brings a different perspective to the topic. The only thing I would want to touch on is this notion, that I apparently said that women wear weaves for men. In actual fact I think it’s the contrary, Women wear weaves for other women who sit around and judge them about their hair. Guys really don’t have time for that. So my point was, if women dressed to impress guys, they wouldn’t have to worry about weaves, we don’t judge women based on their hair.
Oh, I definitely don’t think that you blew it out of proportion. I did admit that a lot of women do it for the reasons you mentioned. I just feel as though when a lot of people speak about weaves, they never speak about it from the “convenience” angle. It’s always the “white standard of beauty” angle or “for a man’s approval angle”. I do agree with you that some women wear them to please other women. Heck, women dress to impress other women when they attend social gatherings; and I will be the first to admit to doing this. I can’t speak on Chris Rock’s movie as I don’t pay attention to the media that much for me to know what it’s about.
My belief is that guys look at the whole package, and subconsciously consider the whole package (which includes hair) as far as attraction/interest is concerned. Not to say that if he’s feeling other stuff and the hair doesn’t quite do it for him, he’d lose interest, but rather, that a woman’s hair is a very important aspect of her overall appearance, and often greatly contributes to her attractiveness to a man – the kind of attraction he feels without analyzing; he just feels it as a natural response.
I also feel that if a man were interested in you as a potential girlfriend, he’d be more likely to care about your hair (and I’m not implying that he’d want it to be glamorous, as men like different things). Whereas, if he just wanted to get some and hop off (no pun intended), it wouldn’t matter much.
P.S. I’m neither for nor against weaves. I’m just addressing the issue about men’s attitudes towards women’s hair.
I know alot of women who wear weave and wigs because they have hair loss and because they cannot afford to get their hair done every month.
http://theinsanityreport.com/home/index.php/2009/11/02/dylans-corner/dear-black-woman-do-you-have-good-or-bad-hair/
Damien Blk, please check out the link above. The blogger touches on almost all of the major points you made. I’m glad to see that another man shares your perspective on this issue.
You’re an idiot. That whole post didn’t make any sense. I don’t wear weave but I don’t have a problem with it. If someone could weave my hair without wanting to straighten the hairline, I’d do it in a heartbeat.
Amber Rose is hideous. She looks like an orange monster. Solange Knowles used to wear weaves and I’m sure when her hair grows back out a little she’ll do it again.
Rihanna! HA! She IS wearing a weave in that pic. She ALWAYS wears weaves. From the time she debuted to the day she got her ass pounded to today, she wears weave. Get your facts straight. And by the simple fact that you’ve created this whole post about it… I’m guessing men put a little more thought into a woman’s hair than you claim. Or do you have a vagina?
Dude this bitch is mad! what the fuck is wrong with her? She should go fuck her self!
and why do u care what’s in a women’s hair if your not dating her last time i checked eeveryone is free to do anything they want to themselves
I respect your opinion. For me hair extension is like a work of art. You may take it as good or bad art it is how you see it. Art has certain looks, colors, textures, and dimensions. You will either love it or hate it and move on.
Who is a man, to say what a woman should or shouldn’t do? For any reason.
Yes Im really tired of the weaves they look so fake. I used to rock one and now its all natural I manage to grow my hair to the middle of my back and love it. No worries about tracks showing or hiding that its fake. This is me and I love me!
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